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How to ask your date about their faith
Asking someone about their faith is a great way to get to know them, and it also allows you to assess if this is someone that you could be compatible with. When you first start seeing someone, you might be interested to know a bit about their faith, but it can be tricky to know how to ask about it, especially in the initial stages. But coming with the right attitude and a genuine curiosity can open the door to some deep and thoughtful conversations. Here are some helpful questions to consider when it comes to asking someone about their faith. Ask them how they became a Christian and what…
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Is It Better To Stay Friends or Let Her Go?
Estimated reading time: 16 minutes Dear Doctor, Longtime reader and first-time writer, and I really didn’t expect THIS to be the issue I’d be writing you about. Last June, I (33M) began a casual relationship with a slightly older, recently divorced single mother that I met online. We both wanted a low-stakes arrangement. We would get together once a week for dinner when she didn’t have her child, and we would sleep together afterward. Her ex was petty (her words not mine) and she and I both wanted some discretion in the relationship at the time. There were no expectations of commitment, though for the year that we were seeing…
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How Do I Stop Hating Myself For Being A Virgin?
Estimated reading time: 17 minutes Hey doc I know I’m not the first to write about this subject and probably not the last but my 28th birthday is creeping around and I’m still a virgin. I don’t like it, I don’t wanna accept it and I wanna change because I treat it less like a value neutral experience and more like a tumor growing on the side of my head – IE impossible to ignore and blatant character flaw. I’ve asked some of my girlfriends in my life if they minded dating theoretical older virgin (because JFC I’m not outing as a loser in front of them, that’s social suicide)…
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I Fell In Love With A Younger Man In Another Country. What Do We Do Now?
Estimated reading time: 13 minutes Hello Dr. NerdLove, I am a 67-year-old Black woman who lives in a mid-western state. I have an adult son who lives a few miles from me, but I have never been married or been in any relationship. I’ve had brief flings and “entanglements” that were far from healthy, but never a long-term, committed relationship. I was prepared to accept being a single woman in the last years of my life because my life is a good one, but my then therapist encouraged me not to accept it since I truly longed for a serious, committed, healthy long-term relationship. Thus, in May 2024, I took the plunge and went on an…
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“It’s everything I could have ever prayed for” – James & Rica, our Christian Connection story
For James and Rica, timing was everything. “I had, many years ago, joined Christian Connection,” says James, “I actually felt Holy Spirit, conviction that it wasn’t the time. Years later, I’d felt the desire to go down the track of a Christian online dating… I accepted that God was taking me down that route, and two or three days later this gorgeous woman popped up on my feed, and I thought I’d get in touch.” Rica says, “I sat in prayer and felt the Holy Spirit tell me to join Christian connection, and after some wrestling, I listened, and within a half an hour, I got a little pop up…
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My Sexuality Is Chaos and I Don’t Feel Love. How Do I Find A Relationship?
Estimated reading time: 11 minutes Hello, Dr. NerdLove, (sorry in advance for some grammar mistakes, english is not my native language) The tl;dr version of the letter is basically “How does an aromantic, very sexually confused autistic guy with an avoidant attachment style deal with relationships?” (and by relationship, I mean, friend with benefits with the emphasis on friend) Now, doing things in order, I’m aromantic, meaning that I never felt any romantic attraction towards anyone. I do feel sexual attraction (more on that later), but I never had romantic crushes (or I can’t make the difference between them and friendship), so I suppose that in the 35 years of…
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My Last Relationship Failed and Now I’m Terrified To Date Again!
Estimated reading time: 15 minutes Dear Dr. NerdLove, I’m in my thirties now and haven’t dated since my early twenties. Some of that has just been life circumstances, some of it has been excuses using those life circumstances, but I’ve finally ‘got’ to the place I want to be, and now I just have to face the naked truth: I’m fucking terrified of relationships. It dates back to my main long-term relationship from my twenties. In retrospect, it basically followed a pattern of me trying to get her affection (both like comfort and sex) to little success, so I’d start pulling away or get annoyed, and then she would have…
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8 fun animal date ideas to get close to nature together
Meeting for a date can come with nerves and high expectations – adding in some creature comforts can be just what’s needed! Animal date ideas can be fun, varied and cute. Full of great talking points, memorable moments and opportunities to bond over whatever of God’s creatures appeal. See animals up close Whether you plan an animal date idea at a zoo, safari park or conservation centre, you can be sure you’ll encounter creatures you wouldn’t spot at your local park. Often helping to protect and breed endangered species, as well as a place to learn about wildlife, you can walk – or drive – together through a wonderland of…
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I Just Found Out My Girlfriend Is On OnlyFans! Am I Overreacting?
Estimated reading time: 13 minutes Dear Dr. NerdLove, I’m trying to figure out if I’m overreacting or if this is a reasonable response. I (M/27) recently stated seeing “Amanda” (F/25), after we met on Hinge. We’ve had a few dates so far and our chemistry and connection have been undeniable, so much so that I realized that I wasn’t really talking to other matches. When I mentioned this to her, Amanda said that she felt the same way and was likewise not interested in continuing to be on the apps. While we’re not fully exclusive yet, I think we’re definitely at the “talking about exclusivity” stage and trying to figure…
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I Had An Amazing First Date. How Do I Keep My Anxiety From Ruining A Second One?
Estimated reading time: 14 minutes Doctor’s Note: I’m in Seattle for WorldCon, so there will be a lighter publishing schedule through Wednesday. Hi Doc, I have always had difficulty approaching women romantically and I haven’t had a girl in my life in many, many years. I finally met someone through my brother. We hit it off at his wedding and we went out for the first time a few days ago. It was such an amazing experience and I felt like we clicked on so many things. I wasn’t anxious or nervous around her and I didn’t expect us to hang out together for as long as we did. We…
