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Estimated reading time: 12 minutes Hi Doc, I’m reaching out because I’ve been feeling a bit lost when it comes to relationships, and I’m hoping to get your perspective. At a recent event, I found myself feeling unexpectedly envious and isolated, which made me realize that there are some things I need to explore and understand. A bit of context: in my twenties, I didn’t always make the best choices when it came to friendships. I’m naturally empathetic, and I’ve always felt a strong connection to people going through hard times, given that I’ve experienced my own challenges. Unfortunately, most of those connections ended up being unhealthy for me, and…

Estimated reading time: 18 minutes Hi Doc, Long time reader, first time LW. You seem to be pretty good with questions around how to know if you’re sending the right signals (or wrong ones) so I was hoping you might be able to help with mine. I’m a late 20s cis gay woman who’s been on the apps casually dating for the past year, since I split up from a long-term boyfriend who was in no way shape or form right for me (see the “gay” part above!) I’ve been running into a problem which may seem like the opposite of a problem to some people, but it’s been making…

She’s made huge strides in her life, but intrusive, negative thoughts keep coming back. How can she shut down those voices and be kinder to herself? The post How Can I Learn To Be Kinder To Myself? appeared first on Paging Dr. NerdLove.

Estimated reading time: 15 minutes Dear Dr. NerdLove, I’ve been struggling with a concern that I can’t seem to shake off, and I hope you might be able to help me see things from a different perspective. For a big part of my life, I felt like I was always trying to catch up. I once got myself into heavy debt after a bad investment decision. It took years, but I worked hard and managed to pay it off. During that time, I was also taking care of my sick mother. It wasn’t easy — financially, emotionally, or mentally — but I did it because she needed me. When she…

Estimated reading time: 27 minutes Doctor’s Note: Occasionally I get a letter that is less of an entry for Ask Dr. NerdLove and more of an a prompt for a longer form response — not a Post-Mortem but rather, a discussion with The Chair Leg of Truth as we go through the letter point by point.  This is one of those times. Settle in folks, this is gonna be a long one. Dear Dr. NerdLove: I need to learn how to manipulate women. An odd opener, but to steal a line from Professor Neil: hit me with it. Thanks to reading your blog, at 27 years old I’ve developed my life…

Estimated reading time: 19 minutes Hello Dr. NerdLove, Thanks for all your work. I’ve learned a lot from your blog and what you’ve written in your blog. I’ll begin by saying that I’ve noticed that there are a lot of crossovers between business and dating. To succeed in business, you need to be comfortable with rejection and taking risks. You need to be proactive, outgoing, and persistent. Like dating, it’s a numbers game. I see a lot of dating advice that recommends increasing cold approaches, pursuing your own interests, and networking. Regarding cold approaches, many of those who work in sales do not rely on cold calling alone for good…

Estimated reading time: 15 minutes Dear Doc, I’m in my late 20’s and I’m fed up with dating. I feel like I’m trying to knock down a wall by hitting it with my head over and over again. The only viable option for dating seems to be apps now that I’m out of college. I have tried pretty much every popular dating app. Initially I got the most matches on Hinge but none of those lead to anything long term. Each of them averaged about 3 dates and then just kind of fizzled out. These days I get NO matches on dating apps. The app I probably had the most…